The best conversation starters
The "Quick Scan Approach"
The "Spokes Method"
The "Quick Win Approach"
With all of these strategies, it is important to practice! Practicing these skills on a consistent basis will help them come naturally over time.
Leaving a conversation can sometimes feel awkward. Perhaps because you don’t want to interrupt the conversation, or because you don’t want to seem anti-social for leaving early. However, others usually don’t think twice about someone leaving the conversation when it’s done quickly and cleanly.
Saying something like, “It was great talking to you, but I have to run” or, “I’ve got to go, talk to you later” can be great ways to end the conversation without bringing in complex excuses that drag the dialogue on.
Additionally, keep in mind that you likely are not the only one thinking about ending the conversation. It’s common to feel anxious about ending a conversation, so relax and don’t worry about hurting others’ feelings when you need to leave.
Once you’ve laid the foundation for a relationship with small talk, it may be time to have some deeper conversations. However, it is still important to recognize that some people want to stick with neutral small talk! Always respect others’ boundaries as to not risk making them feel uncomfortable.
If the other person is open to moving past small talk, here are some tips for deepening the conversation.